Nate loves sleeping in my bed. I usually don't mind one kid coming in to snuggle, but when there are two little boys in there fighting for space, I start to get a little cranky. I also don't love waking up in a puddle of pee from those friends that come creeping in (that's happened more times than I care to count). Jason comes in every night without fail. I put him back a few times and then I give up. Nate usually comes in when it is the early morning hours and I don't even notice him creeping in. I only notice when I can't even wiggle because there are children surrounding me.
Mike is even less of a fan. He is always complaining about feet in his face...I don't know why. :(
So, we thought of a plan. The boys each picked out a toy that they really wanted and I bought it and set it out where they could see. They had to sleep in their own beds for 14 nights and then they could have the toy. Nate was really excited about the prospect of the new toy (Crusher, a monster truck from a show he likes). He got right into the habit of staying in his own bed and just the other day, he earned his truck. He had a few setbacks throughout the time, but he really did pretty good.
Jason was a different story. He thought it was a great plan during the daytime hours, but just couldn't make it happen at night. As I tried to rationalize with him in the middle of the night and remind him that he was working toward earning Blaze, he'd tell me that he didn't care about Blaze...he just wanted to sleep in my bed. Then, in the light of the morning, remorse would set in and he'd put on his most sad and dejected face as I put a check mark on the calendar for Nate, but not for him.
We finally decided that it was nearly impossible for him to sleep in his own bed all night, but the goal for him could be that he falls asleep for naps and bedtime without me laying down by him. He is still working toward that goal...with no end in sight.
Well, as I was saying, Nate earned Crusher the other day (insert another sad and dejected face from Jason as Nate opened his toy). He was so happy to have Crusher and played with him all day. Then night time came, and I had a 2 am visitor again.
This morning, we had a little chat about it in the car. Here's what he had to say about it...
Me: Nate, why did you come into my bed again last night?
Nate: Because I earned my Crusher. Now I can come back.
Me: You earned Crusher because you stayed for 14 nights. You have to keep on staying in your bed.
Nate: Why? I don't have to sleep in my bed anymore because I earned Crusher.
Me: You earned Crusher, but that doesn't mean you get to come back to my bed! You have to learn how to sleep in your own bed!
Nate: Well, I don't like sleeping in my own bed. I just love you and I want to sleep next to you. I come in because I love you.
Me: How can I ague with that?